I'm feeling a bit ambivalent this Father's Day.
I am spending it away from my son, who is away at a baseball tournament. The reason: I am taking my eldest daughter to lifeguard training, and taking care of my youngest daughter so that my wife, who is with my son, can spend the day doing some work.
So -- I guess I'm being a father. But there is something that bothers me about being away from my son when he is playing baseball. I know that he would like me to see him excel. The problem is that when I watch him play, he often gets nervous and then there is a weird tension between us. So I try not to go.
We're both happier that way. But I feel bad about it. Maybe we'll grow out of it.
I will probably see my own father, who is a hero and a great man. And I may get to spend some time today doing some writing work I love, as well as a few other things.
But I do wish I could see my son today, and my wife. Can't have it all.
This week’s portion launches the great story of Abraham, who is told to leave everything of his life behind — except his immediate family — and to leave for “the Land that I shall show you.”
There’s something interesting in the fact that Abraham is told to leave his father’s house, as if breaking away from his father’s life — but his father, in fact, began the journey, moving from Ur to Haran (in last week’s portion). His father set a positive example — why should Abraham leave him?
Some obvious answers suggest themselves — adulthood, needing to make one’s own choices, his father not going far enough, etc.
But I think there is another answer. Abraham (known for the moment as Abram) needs to establish his own household. This is not just about making one’s own choice, but really about choosing one’s own starting point. It’s starting over.
Sometimes we start over in fundamental ways even if much that surrounds us remains the same. Sometimes the journey we have to ...
The story of Noah is familiar; the details, less so.
Noah is often seen as an ambivalent figure. He was righteous -- but only for his generation. What was his deficiency?
One answer suggests itself: knowing that the world was about to be flooded, he built an Ark for the animals and for his own family -- but did not try to save anyone else or to convince them to repent and change their ways (the prophet Jonah, later, would share that reluctance).
Abraham, later, would set himself apart by arguing with God -- with the Lord Himself! -- against the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, saying that they should be saved if there were enough righteous people to be found (there were not).
Still, Noah was good enough -- and sometimes, that really is sufficient to save the world. We don't need heroes every time -- just ordinary decency.
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